If the definition of judgmental is the processing of using judgment and the definition of judgment is the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing (according to Webster). Then this is how I view being judgmental - being choosy and being discerning.
I think Christians who live a life pleasing to God are absolutely judgmental, but maybe the better word to use is discerning - using good judgment.
Obviously, Jesus hung out with some bad people - the lowest of the low, the worst of the sinners. But the key point here is he didn't join them in their sin. He was "judgmental" if you will. He called out their sin like the woman at the well. He called out the Pharisees time and time again.
I realize the choices I make about my family are unpopular and many people look at us like we crazy weirdos but as much as I love those people I am not accountable to them for my actions, I am accountable to God for my actions.
And I absolutely need to be more understanding and I need to figure out how to speak the truth in love. When people accuse me of being judgmental I'm just not that offended. Hold me to a higher standard, make me be better than I am.
In Matthew 10:34-35 Jesus himself says he came to divide people not to bring peace.
"If we are going to follow Jesus and have Him truly be our Lord then there will be times when people who do not follow Him will not understand us. There will be times when they will angry with us, hurt by us, argue with us. We must realize that when we follow Jesus we become citizens of His Kingdom. We become exiles in our own communities. We just don’t exactly fit anymore. That misfit will divide us from others. But it need not make us people who lash out against those who are different from us. Paul tells us in Romans 12:18 “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men”. By it’s very nature our following of Jesus puts us at odds. But in spite of that reality, we are to do all that we possibly can to bridge the gap and be reconciled in Christ.
Yes, by the very nature of who Jesus is, people will be at odds with one another. But also by the very nature of His death on the Cross, his Resurrection, and Ascension, Jesus reconciles people to one another and to Himself. That reconciliation brings us closer to one another than we ever could be without Him. Out role in that is to live out the Gospel with as much passion and devotion as possible. " (Provocative Christian)
Those are just my thoughts for today. Do with them what you will. Just don't be judgmental, just kidding.